Sunday, December 28, 2008

Best of the Year

Together these videos make up some of the best of what the world wide web has to offer. For us, they are the Multicultural Friends Videos of the Year 2008.

The reason video cameras were invented

Dance Dance

Two Guitars

The Best Karate Lesson

The Kid

Siskel and Ebert


Little People Cops





Black Dynamite

Sweet Berry Wine


Shoe Toss

Hillary in the House


He's Texting!

Dance Lessons

And here is the best video we didn't find this past year.

Best Of Steven Seagal 5 - Funny home videos are a click away


Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Merry Christmas

Your reward for checking the blog during the holidays?

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Monday, December 22, 2008

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Monday, December 15, 2008

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Japanese Commercial

In some places they take commercials (and life in general) so seriously that they hire Brad Pitt to star in them and Wes Anderson (Bottle Rocket, Rushmore, The Royal Tanenbaums, Steve Zissou, The Darjeeling Limited) to conceive the idea and direct them. The product is this.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

New Energy Chief

I read about this news story today on CNN, and it was one of those things that makes you feel a lot better about being alive. Obama announced (or is about to) that his energy secretary will be Steven Chu, an atomic physicist from UC Berkeley. He won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1997 for developing a method to supercool an atom so that you can trap it and manipulate it with a laser. His other research experience includes quantum electronics, polymer physics, biology, spectroscopy, and astrophysics. His resume is mind-boggling if you care to look it up. But it got me thinking, finally we are seeing people put in charge who actually know what they are doing. If the election had turned out different, I doubt a change of pace like this would be happening. Here's to January 20th.

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Does he make it?

Say What?

"Most people have the will to win, few have the will to prepare to win."
Bobby Knight

Monday, December 8, 2008

Mills Brothers and Sister Rosetta Tharpe

This is footage from one of my uncles movies from that he made back in the 80's.

This is footage from his movie that is coming out next year in theaters called "Singing Praise to the Lord".


See more funny videos at Funny or Die

Saturday, December 6, 2008

The Gift and The Curse

       An American Hero
Radio! a.k.a. Tebow Syndrome
Nice Costume
Definition of a Kodak Moment
Juggernaut a.k.a. Hard Head
Heisman with a Baby, an American Hero

Status Check: Fungai, December 2008

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Monday, December 1, 2008

Sweet Berry Wine

ignore the first 30 sec of this

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Hall of Fame

To start with Norm McDonald will be inexplicably disrespected as he has his whole career by me putting this video from a famous 1990's hit movie featuring Pierce Brosnan and Sally Field.

Norm is perhaps best known for his time on Saturday Night Live, a late night improv sketch comedy program on the National Broadcasting Channel, an American television station.


MacDonald used a deadpan style during the newsegment, which included repeated references to prison rape, 'crack whores' and the Germans' love of Baywatch star David Hasselhoff. MacDonald would occasionally deliver a piece of news, then take out his personal compact tape recorder and leave a "note to self" relevant to what he just discussed. He also commonly and inexplicably used Frank Stallone as a non sequitur punchline.

MacDonald would repeatedly ridicule public figures such as Michael Jackson and O.J. Simpson. Throughout the Simpson trial, MacDonald would constantly pillory the former football star, often heavily implying Simpson was guilty of the brutal slaying of his wife Nicole and her friend Ronald Goldman. In the broadcast following Simpson's acquittal, MacDonald opened Weekend Update by saying: "Well, it's official: murder is legal in the state of California." He also continued to denounce Simpson after the trial.
After the announcement that Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley planned to divorce, MacDonald joked about their irreconcilable differences on Weekend Update: "She's more of a stay-at-home type, and he's more of a homosexual pedophile." He followed this up a few episodes later with a report about the singer's recent collapse and hospitalization. Referring to a report of how Jackson had decorated his hospital room with giant photographs of Shirley Temple, Macdonald remarked that viewers should not get the wrong idea, adding, "We'd like to remind you that Michael Jackson is, in fact, a homosexual pedophile." The joke elicited audible gasps from some audience members. He responded to this by saying, "What? He is a homosexual pedophile." [2]
MacDonald's time with Saturday Night Live effectively ended in late 1997 when he was finally fired from the Weekend Update segment upon the insistence of NBC West Coast Executive Don Ohlmeyer, who pressured the producers to remove him, explaining that MacDonald was "not funny." Some believe that Don Ohlmeyer's friendship with O. J. Simpson — a celebrity whom MacDonald often antagonized on the show — may have fueled Ohlmeyer's decision.[1] Ohlmeyer denied the rumor, arguing that other NBC late-night comedians (e.g., Jay Leno, Conan O'Brien, and other SNL players) also constantly lampooned Simpson with little to no sanction, and that his decision was based solely on audience reaction through tapes he had personally reviewed. David Letterman and Howard Stern later insisted in interviews with Macdonald that Ohlmeyer was really just carrying out the work of producer Lorne Michaels, who was too cowardly to fire him directly.
On February 28, 1998, one of his last appearances on SNL occurred as host of a fictitious TV show called Who's More Grizzled?, who asked questions of "mountain men" played by that night's host Garth Brooks and special guest Robert Duvall. In the sketch, Brooks' character said to MacDonald's character, "I don't much care for you," to which MacDonald replied, "A lot of people don't."
After MacDonald left SNL, his successor, Colin Quinn, gave a short prologue in his first day anchoring Weekend Update, during which Quinn mentioned that MacDonald had shown him "the ropes" of the segment. Quinn then asked the audience if they ever went to their favorite pub seeking their favorite bartender—and found him to be replaced by a less qualified man named "Steve". After a brief pause, Quinn deadpanned, "Well I'm Steve, what can I get you." Castmember Will Ferrell then appeared as Chicago Cubs announcer Harry Caray, who repeatedly referred to Quinn as "Norm", adding, "Norm, have you gained some weight?"
Soon after leaving Saturday Night Live, Macdonald co-wrote and starred in the "revenge comedy" Dirty Work (1998), with Jack Warden, Don Rickles, Chevy Chase, Chris Farley, Artie Lange and Adam Sandler.

Here is Norm promoting the movie with the director on Good Morning America.

In 1998 Norm also hosted the Espy Awards on ESPN. Here is some video from that event.


Later that year, Macdonald voiced the character of Lucky the dog in the Eddie Murphy remake of Doctor Dolittle. He reprised the role in both Doctor Dolittle 2 (2001) and Doctor Dolittle 3 (2006)
Macdonald voiced the character of Death on an episode of Family Guy. Due to a conflict with his stand-up comedy schedule, he was unavailable to voice the character for the next two appearances; the role went to Adam Carolla.
In 1999, Macdonald starred in the sitcom The Norm Show (later renamed Norm), co-starring Laurie Metcalf, Artie Lange and Ian Gomez. It ran for three seasons on ABC. Macdonald voiced Hardee's restaurant's (Carl's Jr. on the US West Coast) costumed mascot, the Hardee's star in advertisements. Macdonald also appeared on several Miller Lite commercials that year.
He appeared on the September 1999 Saturday Night Live primetime special celebrating the program's 25th year on the air. Macdonald was one of only three former Weekend Update anchors to introduce a retrospective on the segment.
Macdonald returned to Saturday Night Live to host the October 23, 1999 show. His multiple utterances of "God damn" were edited out of future repeats of the episode.

The next episode; airing November 6, 1999 and hosted by Dylan McDermott; featured a sketch where Chris Kattan, as the androgynous character Mango, is opening letters from celebrity admirers and, after opening the last one, says "[the letter is from] Norm Macdonald, who is that?"
Also in 1999, Macdonald made a cameo appearance in the Andy Kaufman biopic Man on the Moon. When Michael Richards refused to portray himself in the scene reenacting the famous Fridays incident where Kaufman throws water in his face, Macdonald stepped in to play Richards, although he is never referred to by name.
In 2000, Macdonald starred in his second motion picture, Screwed, which like Dirty Work, fared poorly at the box office.

On November 12 2000 Macdonald appeared on the Celebrity Edition of Who Wants To Be A Millionaire? and reached the $1 million question.[5] He guessed correctly for the $500,000 question and was going to answer the $1 million question, but Regis Philbin encouraged him to stop because of the amount of money at risk. Had he given an incorrect answer to the $1 million question, his charitable winnings would have plummeted to only $32,000, which Mcdonald had chosen to go to Paul Newman's Hole in the Wall Camps. Philbin's unease made McDonald think he was giving the wrong answer, so Macdonald chose to stop. His answer was actually correct, so he would have won the $1,000,000 for Hole in the Wall Camps instead of $500,000. Philbin apologized for the incident on his show the next day.
Macdonald continued to make appearances on television shows and in films, including Deuce Bigalow: Male Gigolo, Deuce Bigalow: European Gigolo, and The Animal, all of which starred fellow Saturday Night Live alumnus Rob Schneider and were produced by Adam Sandler. He also appeared in the People Vs. Larry Flynt.
In 2005, Macdonald signed a deal with Comedy Central to create a new sketch comedy pilot called Back To Norm, which debuted that May. The pilot was never turned into a series. Its infamous cold opening parodied the suicide of Budd Dwyer, a Pennsylvania politician who, facing decades of incarceration, committed suicide on live television in 1987. Rob Schneider appeared in the pilot.
In September 2006, Macdonald's sketch comedy album, Ridiculous, was released by Comedy Central Records. It features appearances by Will Ferrell, Jon Lovitz, Tim Meadows, Molly Shannon and Artie Lange. On September 14, 2006, Macdonald appeared on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart to promote Ridiculous. During the appearance, Macdonald made some jokes about the recent death of Steve Irwin, the Crocodile Hunter. Stewart, holding back laughter, asked Norm to change the subject


Macdonald was a guest character on My Name Is Earl in the episode "Two Balls, Two Strikes" as "Lil Chubby", the son of "Chubby" (played by Burt Reynolds), similar to Macdonald's portrayals of Reynolds on SNL.
Norm Macdonald is a poker player. In the 2007 World Series of Poker, he came in 20th place out of 827 entrants in the $3,000 No Limit Texas Hold 'em event, winning $14,608.[7] He also made it to round two of the $5,000 World Championship of Heads-Up No-Limit Hold'em.
On the comedy website, Super Deluxe, he has created an animated series entitled "The Fake News".[8]
Norm has filled in during Dennis Miller's weekly O'Reilly Factor "Miller Time" segment on January 2, 2008, and guest-hosted Dennis Miller's Radio show on January 3, 2008. Norm had also been a regular contributor on the Dennis Miller Radio show every Friday, prior to an unexplained absence that left Miller wondering on-air if the show had somehow miffed Norm. Macdonald returned after many months on May 30, 2008, but not before missing a scheduled appearance the day before. He hosted Miller's radio show for the second time on July 16, 2008, along with Macdonald's friend Stevie Ray Fromstein.
On June 19, 2008, Norm was a celebrity panelist on two episodes of a revived version of the popular game show Match Game, which was taped at CBS Television City in Los Angeles. The new version features the same set used in the early years of the 1970s version and also stars comedienne Sarah Silverman as a fellow celebrity panelist.[9]
On August 17, 2008, Norm was a participant in the Comedy Central Roast of Bob Saget.

Despite referring to himself as apolitical, Macdonald has made controversial references to politically-charged issues, with mixed humorous results.
At the end of the Weekend Update segment before the 1996 presidential election, Norm urged viewers to vote for Bob Dole (of whom Macdonald frequently performed a comic impersonation), though hinting that he had solely said it so that he could continue impersonating him. In 2003, Macdonald appeared on Barbara Walters' program The View, publicly renouncing his Canadian citizenship as a joke over his home country's decision not to participate in the Iraq War, stated his belief that Ronald Reagan was the greatest president ever and said that he would be becoming a naturalized citizen of the United States (as of January 2006, he stated that he is not a United States citizen. "I just keep renewing my green card", said Macdonald in a telephone interview[10]). On the November 16, 2000 episode of The View Macdonald said that he thought George W. Bush was "a decent man" and he called Bill Clinton a "murderer" (regarding the Vince Foster case). Macdonald later stated in Maxim magazine that he is completely apolitical, and that he was joking when he said Clinton "killed a guy". However, on the January 2, 2008 episode of The O'Reilly Factor, Macdonald stated that he is "very pro-life, but against the death penalty," his friend Artie Lange would soon afterwards confirm these opinions as sincere on The Howard Stern Show. Macdonald also revealed that he supports John McCain for president in the 2008 US Presidential Election.[11] He later recanted this and said on the Howard Stern radio show on September 25th "If the election was tomorrow, and I had American citizenship, I'd vote Obama." McDonald commented that he was concerned with the fundamentalist Christian views of McCain's running-mate, Sarah Palin.

Norm on 'The View':

Norm is a Multiculturalfriend Hall of Famer because he brings the truth in a funny way.

No reason to end this piece because Norm continues on. So we will depart with some words on Norm from a couple close friends.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Breaking News

Coming soon to a theater near you.

(This video contains adult content. Viewer discretion advised.)

On the must watch list.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Pure Gold

Cesium in Water


NASA UFO Recordings

Silly Kids

Surveillance Lady

Baby Brad

Workout Master


Instant Controversy

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Obama on SoulTrain

This is a response to the last post.
The title is misleading but the content is inspiring, especially @ 2:30.

Friday, November 7, 2008

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Say What

Emo Philips - "My computer beat me at checkers, but I sure beat it at kickboxing."

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Legends in Action

Scotch Tape: More Powerful Than You Think?

from AOL news:

NEW YORK (Oct. 22) - Just two weeks after a Nobel Prize highlighted theoretical work on subatomic particles, physicists are announcing a startling discovery about a much more familiar form of matter: Scotch tape. It turns out that if you peel the popular adhesive tape off its roll in a vacuum chamber, it emits X-rays. The researchers even made an X-ray image of one of their fingers.
Who knew? Actually, more than 50 years ago, some Russian scientists reported evidence of X-rays from peeling sticky tape off glass. But the new work demonstrates that you can get a lot of X-rays, a study co-author says.
"We were very surprised," said Juan Escobar. "The power you could get from just peeling tape was enormous."
Escobar, a graduate student at the University of California, Los Angeles, reports the work with UCLA colleagues in Thursday's issue of the journal Nature.
He suggests that with some refinements, the process might be harnessed for making inexpensive X-ray machines for paramedics or for places where electricity is expensive or hard to get. After all, you could peel tape or do something similar in such machines with just human power, like cranking.
The researchers and UCLA have applied for a patent covering such devices.
In the new work, a machine peeled ordinary Scotch tape off a roll in a vacuum chamber at about 1.2 inches per second. Rapid pulses of X-rays, each about a billionth of a second long, emerged from very close to where the tape was coming off the roll.
That's where electrons jumped from the roll to the sticky underside of the tape that was being pulled away, a journey of about two-thousandths of an inch, Escobar said. When those electrons struck the sticky side they slowed down, and that slowing made them emit X-rays.
So is this a health hazard for unsuspecting tape-peelers?
Escobar noted that no X-rays are produced in the presence of air. You need to work in a vacuum — not exactly an everyday situation.
"If you're going to peel tape in a vacuum, you should be extra careful," he said. But "I will continue to use Scotch tape during my daily life, and I think it's safe to do it in your office. No guarantees."
James Hevezi, who chairs the American College of Radiology's Commission on Medical Physics, said the notion of developing an X-ray machine from the new finding was "a very interesting idea, and I think it should be carried further in research."

Monday, October 13, 2008

The Resurrection of Bruce Bonner

Dallas Cowboys quarterback Tony Romo has a broken finger on his throwing hand and could be out for up to four weeks.

Romo, who had started 30 straight regular-season games since replacing Drew Bledsoe in 2006, broke his right pinkie on the first play of overtime in a 30-24 loss at Arizona on Sunday.

The injury, which Phillips said won't require surgery, leaves the Cowboys (4-2) with 40-year-old Brad Johnson as the starter. Johnson, who won a Super Bowl with Tampa Bay, hasn't started a game since 2006 in Minnesota.

The Cowboys had no plans Monday to sign a veteran quarterback or trade for one before Tuesday's trade deadline, a team source told ESPN's Michael Smith.

Johnson quarterbacked the Buccaneers to the NFL championship in 2002. He has been Romo's backup since last season and threw only 11 passes in 2007.

"I'm excited about the opportunity, worked hard to get here," Johnson said.
"It's going to be Brad to go in there and prove that he's not just here for the ride, he's part of this thing," Ellis said. "Every opportunity I've seen Brad step in on other teams, he's able to hold it down and get it done."

Another former Viking, Brooks Bollinger, will be Johnson's backup.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Quote of the Day

"I don't think I'm going to vote. Because I make Republican income, but I need the Democrats in office, so which way do I go?" -- Redskins running back Clinton Portis. (But asked which way the Redskins would vote, as a team, cornerback Fred Smoot told AP, "It's a blue state.")

Friday, October 3, 2008

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Say What?

David Sarnoff - "Nobody can be successful unless he loves his work."

Gilda Radner - "I base most of my fashion taste on what doesn't itch."

Carl Sagan - "Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known."

Daniel J. Boorstin - "Freedom means the opportunity to be what we never thought we would be."

Wendell Willkie - "Free men are the strongest men."

George Will - "Voters don't decide issues, they decide who will decide issues."

Anthony Burgess - "Laugh and the world laughs with you, snore and you sleep alone."

Mary McCarthy - "We are the hero of our own story."

John Wooden - "Ability is a poor man's wealth.”

Vince Lombard - "Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence."

Frank Lloyd Wright - "The truth is more important than the facts.”

The following are a Collection of Quotes from David Carradine, of Kung Fu and Kill Bill fame.

"If you cannot be a poet, be the poem."

"There's an alternative. There's always a third way, and it's not a combination of the other two ways. It's a different way."

[on his late friend and one-time co-star, Brandon Lee] "He was always giving 110%, and it produced a light in the eyes, which is what you look for in movies."

"Every day, at least six people will come up to me and say, "Your show ["Kung Fu" (1972)] changed my life"."

[reflecting on his lengthy acting career] "It's always seemed to me like a mission. A holy one, like the Blues Brothers. It's a marathon. You can't quit; even coming in dead last has honor. Quitting doesn't. Look, I had absolute faith in my future when I was starving in New York and no one believed in me besides me and my girlfriend. I'd be stupid to lose that faith after I've become a fucking icon. Oh, yes. And I love the work."

Monday, September 29, 2008

Dow Dropped 777 pts.?!

Eqivalent to $1.2 Trillion. Good thing John McCain suspended his campaign to handle this thing.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Bo Fo Sho

This is an 18 year old who has signed a deal with Judd Apatow to write the 'Anti' High School Musical.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Monday, September 15, 2008

If McCain/Palin win...

Friday, September 12, 2008

Thursday, September 11, 2008

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Big Day for Science

This morning some really smart guys in Europe will be colliding protons at 99.99 percent of the speed of light. They needed to build an underground tunnel 27 km in circumference to get them going fast enough. Physicists are saying this is the most important experiment to happen in the history of mankind. Basically, the collision will recreate an environment very similar to the one when the Big Bang happened billions of years ago. And some jabroni's are even complaining that tiny black holes will be created as a result and the world will end. We'll see.

Fuel to the Fire

(Sep 8, 2008 Adam Schefter)

"The mysterious Patriots keep getting more mysterious.

They brought in quarterbacks Chris Simms and Tim Rattay on Monday. Once they arrived, they were told the situation had changed and they no longer were needed.

So Simms and Rattay left Foxborough, Mass., without a workout or a contract.

The Patriots have to have something in the works — a trade, eyes on another quarterback, something. But the mystery surrounding the Patriots only intensifies."

This can only mean one thing: the Bus Driver is back.

Saturday, September 6, 2008

How I Got Mugged, by Skip Flanagan.

It was a day in a town in a place that happened to be a city. The night was young and full of possibility. The people were out and Skip Flanagan’s cell phone was hot with activity.

Some friends who drank hard wanted to party and Skip Flanagan knew he could keep up. After all, he trained with some of the most talented from a young age and continued his journey through a worldwide capital to hone his craft. He put on the freshest pair of jeans available and walked out of his bedroom.

Skip’s apartment was scarce looking. It looked like half the things inside had been moved out and indeed they had. Only days before, like a shadow, his roommate became his former roommate in a quick painless move out. Everything except for a gigantic dresser which was right in front of the door to the apartment. Skip laughed out loud to himself before departing with a slice of a baguette in his hand to eat on the way. An experienced man, Skip Flanagan.

The walk to the bar would have been nice, but instead Skip was escorted by vehicle. On the way to the bar Skip realized exactly what he was in for. Hard drinking. He also made crumbs fall all over the car as he ate his baguette causing the driver to swear many times in his direction. Skip swore back harder.

At the bar, a realistic place with stools and seats, Skip was immediately drinking. In an effort to show alpha he threw aside certain rules he had in favor of sticking to his morals. Drink for drink of hard liquor not mixed with anything. Commonly known as ‘shots’.

Suddenly, Skip Flanagan realized he had drunk his full. He implored the driver to take him home but was rebuffed. In another effort to show his alpha, as well as just how weird he was, Skip smiled to himself and walked out.

Skip Flanagan walked home from many blocks away. None of us know the details but we all know this story does not go well. It never goes well.

On the way he met a nice man who asked him for a cigarette. Skip didn’t have one for the man. The stranger began walking and talking with him. The conversation was good, not amazing, but good. For Skip it would do on a long, lonely, drunken stagger to his home.

Skip made many great points and also told many humorous stories. So did the stranger he was walking with. At some point in time a turn was necessary so Skip did. The man followed and about three steps later he grabbed Skip by the shoulder and punched him in the gut. Skip went down. Another man approached quickly and kicked Skip in the ribs while he was down. Skip struggled to breathe as he covered his head. He felt his wallet being taken from his back pocket and heard the sound of footsteps running away.

Skip stood up and continued home. Only two blocks later he ran into two cops who he explained the situation to. At one point Skip stopped the story and said, “I’m sorry, I’m a little drunk right now.” One of the cops responded with, “Yeah, we know.” Skip walked the rest of the way home shortly afterword determined to call and cancel all the cards from his wallet. He walked through the front door and directly into the dresser his former roommate had left behind. This caused Skip enough pain that he went back down on the ground. During the confusion of the pain he forgot the reason he had come home. After a drink of water directly from the tap Skip found his bed and went to sleep.

A few hours later Skip woke up with the mugging and his stolen wallet on his mind. He called and canceled all his credit and debit cards. The only charges were two small separate purchases at a Super America near the site of the crime.

The next day the cop’s called to tell Skip that the suspect had been caught trying to use his library card. They asked if he wanted to come down and identify the suspect in a lineup. Skip thanked the cops for their good work but declined the opportunity to identify the suspect in a lineup.

The Legend of...


Damian Marley



Monday, September 1, 2008

Bruce Bonner

Searching "Brooks Bollinger" on youtube is well worth it.

death watch/monday thoughts

Late last night I made a trip to Blockbuster to get the final disc of season 2 of The Wire (which is in my opinion among the best TV shows ever- check it out if you haven't seen it). And as I was walking out I saw INLAND EMPIRE on the shelves. I had just read an article mentioning this movie so I decided to get it. This film is done by the same guy who did Blue Velvet and Mulholland Dr., so I had a general idea of what I was getting into. Then I watched it. The whole thing. And my challenge is to each of you to watch this movie uninterrupted the entire way through. It is quite a journey. But the second and most important point of this post is that Saturday the Minnesota Vikings cut Brooks Bollinger. Another great Viking field general has fallen and I thought he deserved at least a mention. That's all. Oh, that and the fact that, following my mugging this past Friday night, the police managed to recover only my Hennepin County library card. A police sergeant came to my apartment this morning and delivered it to me. Hopefully it wasn't used.

Saturday, August 30, 2008

McCain Chooses Sarah Palin as VP

So yesterday John McCain suprised almost everyone when he announced that his VP/running -mate would be Sarah Palin (Gov. of Alaska).

So the question is why would McCain do this? Here are some reasons that I have heard with my comments as well:

- Sarah Palin will draw Hillary supporters to the McCain camp.
+ Palin & Clinton could be more different as far as their ideologies go... if someone is going to vote for McCain only because he as a woman as a running mate they are an idoit

- McCain also wants to do something "historic."
+ He could have picked Carly Fiorina to be historic as well. The problem with Palin is that she will appeal mostly to same conservatives that are already for McCain... she will not draw an additional base of voters for McCain

- Palin has a good story. "hockey mom turned governor."
+ She does have a good story, but that doesn't carry much weight when you are potentially the next President of the United States

- Palin has executive experience
+ She was the mayor of a town with 9,000 people & the Governor of a state with 670,000 people... the US has a population of 300,000,000

In my opinion, this pick was a bust but I'm pretty biased so we will see.

All I know is that when I saw the pick I was like

More pics with the new camera

Friday, August 29, 2008

My Morning Jacket with Special Guest

Pardon the sound quality, but watching the whole video is well worth it...around 3:30 in the special guest graces the stage. Recorded 8/23/08

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Legendary Performer: Neil Diamond

Following a poor performance at a concert in Columbus, Ohio, singer Neil Diamond felt it necessary to say sorry to his fans. But instead of just issuing an apology (which he did) and promising to perform better his next time through Ohio (which he said he will), Diamond will instead refund the tickets of every single person who attended the August 25th concert at the Value City Arena. To break it down numerically, that’s 11,000 tickets that the Solitary Man will refund.

Diamond is in the thick of a U.S. tour, and during the last few shows, the singer had been suffering from acute laryngitis. He still made it to the Columbus stage, but fans were soon greeted onstage by a hoarse sounding singer. “Dear Fans in Columbus,” Diamond said in a statement, “I haven’t let you down before, and I won’t let you down now. Until you hear from me again remember, You are the sun. I am the moon. You are the words. I am the tune. Forgive me. I love you. Neil.”

Monday, August 25, 2008

First of its Kind

"In Radiohead's new video for 'House of Cards', no cameras or lights were used. Instead, 3D plotting technologies collected information about the shapes and relative distances of objects. The video was created entirely with visualizations of that data."

Hall of Fame


Stedman Graham (born March 6, 1951 in Whitesboro, New Jersey) is an American educator, author, businessman and speaker, who has also served in the United States Army, although he is mainly known as the partner of media mogul Oprah Winfrey. Oprah and Stedman were engaged to be married on November of 1992, but later decided they would rather have a spiritual union.

He went to Middle Township High School and scored over 1,000 points for the boys varsity basketball team. After attending Weatherford College, he received a Bachelor's degree in social work from Hardin-Simmons University and received his Master's degree in education from Ball State University. Coker College awarded him an honorary doctorate in Humanities. He is an adjunct professor at the University of Illinois at Chicago and the University of Chicago Steadman Graham has a sister named Anita Graham that travels with him and a nephrew named Marrico Austin.

Graham is an entrepreneur as CEO of S. Graham & Associates, a Chicago-based corporate and educational marketing and consulting firm. He is also founder of AAD (formerly, Athletes Against Drugs), a non-profit organization that provides services to underserved youth and has awarded over $1.5 million in scholarships since its founding in 1985.

Graham has been the subject of much gossip and publicity over the years, most notably through tabloid articles claiming to chronicle his ongoing relationship with Oprah. Many of these center around the idea of him being a gold digger.
Recently, his one-time connection to conservative commentator Armstrong Williams has received a great deal of media attention, the two having founded a public relations firm, the Graham-Williams Group some 14 years ago. Williams has been recently censured for accepting $250,000 in U.S. government funds for publicly praising the No Child Left Behind Act without admitting he had been paid to so do. Graham was not implicated, and although Williams has retained the company name, Graham has no financial interest in the firm.


In this interview, Graham discusses his methods, his passions and how his famous life partner, Oprah Winfrey, inspired his own personal development.

Q: What is your nine-step process about?

Stedman Graham: Most of us don’t focus on personal development because we are so programmed to buy into labels and titles in our daily lives. Then we do the same thing every single day. We become so busy doing stuff that really has nothing to do with who we are

Real freedom is about being able to take information and make it relevant to the 24 hours you have every day. 
I have developed a process to use the world’s resources to build your own life. It is a nine-step process of understanding and discovering who you are. And second, developing who you are. My process has been well received in the United States, Canada, South Africa. Corporations like it, and I have spoken at Harvard and Wharton about it. 

Even at Harvard and Wharton, students wind up, when they are done, simply sitting in a room somewhere. They might get paid more but still they’ve learned little about how to leverage their own intellectual worth.

Most of us are never engaged in the world because we wind up doing the same thing every day. We can work at a job and after 30 years look back and see that we have no more than we had in the beginning. That’s Ok if that’s what you want.

This process is for people who want a better life.

Q: Do you see a trend in time of life or gender related to when individuals become earnest about connecting with their authentic cores?

Stedman Graham: Women are in special need of the process because they are defined so much by the external world. They live in such a small box, and it is so programmed. They have such an expectation of what they should do. Their programming is very difficult to break out of without any help. It is very difficult for anyone to break out of if you don’t have the network, if you don’t have the information, if you don’t have the good old boys club, if you don’t have the ability to exchange information with other people who really know how to do it. 

Unless there is an alignment of your talent, your skills and your passion with a process for developing them, you are not going anywhere. It doesn’t matter what you want to become, how determined you are, how smart you are. It is impossible to do it unless you come from a core competency that will allow you to grow.

It is a problem of self-empowerment and how to take responsibility for your own actions – which is really centered around personal excellence, results and performance. 

You can’t possibly brand yourself unless you have a personal understanding of who you are.
I know that there is nothing that you can’t do. It doesn’t make any difference what your background is, whether your parents had money, etc, you can become equal to anybody following my process.

Q: What was it like for you growing up?

Stedman Graham: This belief system that I could do it is different from how I grew up. I grew up in a small town, part black and part Native American in New Jersey. I grew up believing that it was all about white America, race and government control. I did not understand my own potential as a human being.

It took me 30-something years to understand that my potential was 
predicated on my skills and talent. I did not know how to self-actualize. My parents told me to go to school and go to work, that was it.

This (blindness) is about not knowing how to process or how to think. It is not centered around other people. 
This is about taking responsibility and being able to transcend bias. It is about all those things that will allow you to look at yourself and learn what you need to know about yourself to become more of a leader. 
You have to align yourself with the resources of the world. 

You have to create a platform that will create some opportunities in the market that you are residing in. 
It is a process that blows me away every single day. It closes the achievement gap.

Q: Was there a specific aha! moment for you?

Stedman Graham: It was a combination of things. 

I was in a relationship with a very powerful woman, Oprah, so I had pressure every single day to prove myself. 
Most people don’t have that kind of pressure so they become comfortable where they are.

Because of the pressure I had to define myself under an umbrella that was bigger than life. That was one influence, and so was understanding business, and how business worked. Having a lot of different mentors was an influence too. I also am a person who is organized and I like that. It helped me come up with a program that I think all successful people have.

I did a comparative analysis of where I came from and where these people were going. And I saw a huge difference. I put that difference into my nine-step program.

It was like this… You’re a man in a relationship with a very powerful woman who reaches 20 million people every single day. You don’t get any respect for that. So the idea of having to find that was part of the catalyst. Being in that circumstance allowed me to look within to survive in that setting. From there I discovered that it is all internal. . 

Q: What is your favorite part of your work?

Stedman Graham: Working with companies and working with business is something I do very well. I really enjoy being able to work with people who are smart. People who are a-plus folks and who are trying to maximize their potential in all spheres. That is what I enjoy most.

Q: What will you be talking about at ChicWIT’s International Women’s Day?
Stedman Graham: I will be talking about the nine steps, and internal and external branding. 
I do this work with Merrill Lynch working with small businesses and high worth individuals. We change the trajectory of people’s lives.

We go into the idea of success circles. We teach them how to organize their lives based on three areas: education, career development and community development. As a core base of organizing their lives, we want them to be branded as an expert; we want them to make as much money as possible; we want them to be able to give back.
We organize their lives around their passion – what we call their life theme. 

It really does change the entire financial landscape when you are able to understand what legacy they want to leave and what kind of brand they want in the marketplace. 

Lots of people have financial tools. But a lot do not have alignment. That’s what I bring to the table. We give them the process for owning their world.

Q: Many people talk about this kind of personal development. One of the most interesting aspects of your work must be seeing the switch go off when people finally get it... Can you give me a good example of having seen that? 

Stedman Graham: There are a number of switches and everybody’s different. Some women may have been held back by their lack of understanding that they can be anything they want. That’s the first switch. Once that switch gets turned on then there is another switch that needs to be turned on and that is “how do you do it”?

Then there are the switches of discovery, planning, being able to integrate that with financial tools, and further alignment. 

The idea of being able to change the way you think about your possibilities and about yourself, that is the big switch.

That’s the key to owning your world. 

For my own personal life, I wasn’t a great student in school because I never turned it on. Once I did, I realized that I could do as well as everyone. There was unlimited opportunity for me.

Q: Has your relationship with Oprah changed since your switch went off?
Stedman Graham: It doesn’t make any difference about anyone else. It just makes a difference about what you want to do in your own personal life to develop your own potential. The thing that you bring to any relationship is the fact that you are able to be your own man, to be your own person. That is the greatest gift.

You don’t ever have to rely on anyone else because you know how to make things happen, end of story. You can share, and you can talk and you can advise and you can help each other. But you stand alone. That is the greatest gift. Wherever you go you stand alone. And you can hold your own.

You never have to apologize anywhere, anytime for who you are. And you understand how to build and to grow and every day you become better than yesterday. If you get that, that’s freedom. 

Regardless of how the world might define you or how other people might see you that’s not the real world you. That’s an illusion. 

Q: What do you say to nay-sayers, to those who focus on circumstance?
Stedman Graham: 

I say it is harder at the top than at the bottom. It is harder when you have to think. It is more difficult when your life is in the limelight. 

Leaders do not have it easy. People at the top know that. Success is not an easy thing to deal with. It is difficult to deal with from the family aspect of it. People change. It is much easier when you are playing softball at the lake.
The naysayers don’t understand what it’s like to be in the limelight. How the media can destroy you. 

So it’s not what happens to you. It’scan you handle it. Do you have the capacity to deal with it every single day?

Q: How do you deal with questions of perceived scarcity vs. abundance? How do you counsel or help a kid in the projects recognize the resources around him when he sees pain and disappointment?

Stedman Graham: It’s a process that takes a long time. 

You have to have the capacity – what it has taken me to get to this point. Serving in the US army, playing ball all over Europe. It’s taken me graduate school. It’s taken me four years in undergraduate school. It’s taken me working five years in the prison system. It’s taken me working in public relations. It’staken traveling around the world, traveling to South Africa. It’s taken me seeing Winnie Mandela’shouse being burnt down and being right there. It’s taken me almost losing my life in a couple of situations. 

You are not here (at this level of awareness) because you have just arrived. You are here because you deserve to be here, not because someone gave you anything. For example, I can tell that your life as a journalist is based on countless hours of writing and developing and reading and working on your craft ---- otherwise you couldn’t do it.

You are where you are because you deserve to be there. People might look at you and say, “Oh yeah, you have it easy because you work for this newspaper or that newspaper.” They don’t realize what it took to get there. And you can lose that in one second. Or in one week or two weeks, your life could change.

Q: Many women attending ChicWIT’s International Women’s Day have experienced the tiny little box you described at the beginning, and they have also been through repeated loss related to their careers. How would you counsel them to handle those ups and downs?
Stedman Graham: You have to have gone through that to be the success that you are. You had to have had failures. If you don’t know what it’s like to worry about missing payroll then you can’t appreciate when the money comes. 
You are not at the top because you are given anything. You are at the top because you have processed your way through. Most people don’t see the process. They see “A to Z” and think that you have gotten there because of such and such. 

What they don’t know is that it is impossible to do (get to the top by maneuvering or circumstance). You can’t maintain the posture. You won’t last. People who are experienced, and people who have gone through the process, and people who have earned the right to be where they are understand that. 

Because the determination, the work and the perseverance that it takes to make it – you’ve got to have that. Otherwise you won’t make it. 

It’s the never quit and never give-up syndrome. If you don’t have that, no matter what you get involved in, you will never make it. 

Q: Many of us fare well at the small victories, but these days sometimes it feels as though you have to be heroic – any advice for that?

Stedman Graham: You have to keep going. You have to have the determination and keep going and not have your spirit broken or give in because it’s hard.


LARRY KING, HOST: Tonight, Stedman Graham -- been Oprah Winfrey's man for some 17 years now. She calls this best-selling author and businessman her "life partner." We're going to take your calls. Stedman Graham for the hour is next on LARRY KING LIVE.
He was last with us in January of 2001. Time goes fast. Stedman Graham, the businessman, public speaker, "New York Times" best-selling author. His books include, "Build Your Own Life Brand," "You Can Make It Happen: A Nine-Step Plan for Success." He's an industry. "Teens Can Make It Happen (ph). Got a new book coming next spring called "Move Without the Ball," a great basketball term.

Does it bug you to be -- that you're known as Oprah's guy? Does that drive you up a wall, or is it incidental?

STEDMAN GRAHAM, AUTHOR, "BUILD YOUR OWN LIFE BRAND": Well, it used to, you know, and now I just realize that you have define yourself. Most people are defined by their titles, their cars, their house, where they came from, their color, their race, their religion. And so it's up to you to take control of your own life and define you. As long as you understand who you are and you have a solid foundation of understanding what your talents are, what your skills are.

KING: So how the public portrays you is how they portray you.

GRAHAM: That's how they portray you. It's how you feel about yourself. And so that allows you to build a strong foundation and be with someone who reaches 20 million people a day.

KING: Let's clear up some facts and myths, and then I want to get to the books, and we'll talk about a lot of things. Going to take your phone calls, too, for Stedman Graham. The new book will be out when, by the way?

GRAHAM: September of next year.

KING: Oh, not till that long?

GRAHAM: Right. Right.

KING: So it's still being written.

GRAHAM: It's finished.

KING: Why so long? Why are we...

GRAHAM: Well, just...

KING: The timing.

GRAHAM: The timing. That's right.

KING: OK. "The National Enquirer" said back in 2002 that you were planning a secret Caribbean wedding and honeymoon. What happened? We all were waiting.

GRAHAM: I don't read "The Enquirer," so...

KING: Oh. There was no...



KING: Why don't you marry?

GRAHAM: Well, I think Oprah explained it pretty good, you know, in an article. And you know, she travels and I travel and it's -- you know, she has her life and I have my life, and it's a big life.

KING: Yes.

GRAHAM: And so trying to fit marriage into that has been somewhat difficult. And you know, we love each other and care for each other, and that's important. And we haven't -- we don't really think about it or talk about it that much.

KING: So children are not in the picture.

GRAHAM: No. No, not really.

KING: Don't want to be a father?

GRAHAM: Well, I have a daughter from a previous marriage and -- so, you know, just -- just hasn't worked that way.

KING: How did you deal when scandal hit you, when they accused you of having a child out of wedlock?

GRAHAM: No. 1, it really...

KING: Clear it up for me.

GRAHAM: It was a lie, so they obviously paid somebody. And they took a picture one time and they used the picture. And that's a great way to, you know, find your father, through the tabloids. And then, you know, I didn't hear anything about it. But it was a lie. And most of the things that you read about are lies. And the fact that we broke up here, I guess it was a tabloid story about two weeks ago or three weeks ago -- that was a lie.

KING: How do you react to reading a lie?

GRAHAM: Again, it goes back to...

KING: And have you trained yourself to react to that?

GRAHAM: No. No. You don't train...

KING: You can't train...

GRAHAM: You train -- you train yourself not to be defined by the external. Define yourself, is the message. Understand who you are, so that you can be the same, whether you're talking to a homeless person or the president of the United States. You're the same person. And you don't react to the external. That's what's so great about -- about having a foundation.

KING: I want to show you how Oprah dealt with this. "The Globe" screamed that Oprah had -- was dumped, that you had moved out after a huge fight, and Oprah had run home to her father. Here's how Oprah dealt with that on her own show. Here's a clip.


OPRAH WINFREY: I found out I got dumped by Stedman! OK, again, not true. But this is what's funny. We were in Africa, and somebody had faxed me this story. And Gail (ph) was there and Stedman was there. Gail was there. So I was reading this story, and Gail was saying, Look, you just can't believe these things. Nobody believes these things. Nobody believes these things. And then I opened it up and I said, It says I'm dumped because of you! It says I'm dumped because of you! And Gail goes, Because of me? Well, you need to sue those people!

OK, not true. As a matter of fact, Stedman and I have been a couple now 17 years. Not true, OK?


KING: You like the way she handled that?

GRAHAM: Oh, yes. She's a class act. I mean, she is just an extraordinary woman, and I'm very fortunate to be with her. And I hope she can say the same thing about me.

KING: It's just -- it's absurd when you read things in these magazines that are not true. And sometimes they're true. Sometimes "The Enquirer" has broken some stories that turn out to be correct.

GRAHAM: Well, you know, everybody says, Oh, you can handle it, until your name is in the paper. If we find Larry King's name is in the paper...

KING: Oh, yes!

GRAHAM: ... it's a different ballgame. But we handle it.

KING: Is everyday life hard in that kind of fast lane with that well-known person?

GRAHAM: You know what? I'm...

KING: Is it hard?

GRAHAM: I'm pretty grounded on my own passion -- writing books, you know, doing programs, speaking around the country. And I love what I do.

KING: I know you do.

GRAHAM: And that's the most important thing for me.

KING: So the writing and lecturing is -- that's...

GRAHAM: That's it for me. And so when you find that passion, when you find out what you love to do, which is what I talk about in the nine-step plan, check your ID, you have a foundation for development. And when you have a foundation for development, you can begin to think. Because most people do the same thing over and over, every single day. If you did the same thing you did yesterday as you did today as you will do tomorrow, what have you done? The same thing.

KING: Can people help -- really help themselves? You know, we talk about self-help books. Can they work?

GRAHAM: Well, self-help -- you know, a lot of it's motivation. But if you don't have a foundation based on talent, skill and passion, you can't develop, you can only be average. So you end up, you know, going through the educational process of learning how to memorize, take tests, forget the information. Then you come out with a grade and a degree, and then you have to go out and get a job. Stay on the job for 30 years, and you look back and say, What have I done? You probably have no more in the bank than you had when you started. So the idea of working and doing the same thing over and over doesn't allow you to grow, based on your potential as a human being.

Now, if you can get that, then what you do is you get past the label of race, you get past the label of gender, you get past the label of class because you're a perfect example of being able to tap into your own passion, which is radio and now television, and build your life, regardless of what your past circumstances are. And when you find that, that's -- that allows you to grow. You can't grow -- you can do OK, but you really can't grow and think and develop without having that foundation.

KING: But I was lucky enough to have some ability to do something. And that I had nothing to do with.

GRAHAM: You took what you loved...

KING: Correct. Took a passion.

GRAHAM: ... and you...

KING: Oprah does that every day, right?

GRAHAM: ... self-actualized -- well, it's the same...

KING: Every day.

GRAHAM: ... process for every single person who maximizes their potential as a human being. And when you find that, you don't turn your power over to somebody else to determine your existence -- not a newspaper, not a tabloid, not a person, not a government. You determine your own existence based on what you create by self- actualizing your potential, based on how you believe in yourself and what you see for yourself.

And when you get that, that's the second step, which is vision. Where there is no vision, the people -- people perish. And so when you have an image and a vision of who you want to become and you believe that and you can work on that every single day, then you can be anything that you want, if you have a plan, which is the third step. You got to have a plan. And so putting a plan together -- but being able, Larry, to take your heart and your soul, attach it to your mind, the intellect, and then apply that to the American free enterprise system -- this is the greatest country in the world -- and build whatever you want to build, based on the world's resources and let those resources apply to your own development, that is freedom.

KING: But there has to be (UNINTELLIGIBLE) concerning black/white. People like you, Oprah -- there has to be a level playing field, doesn't there, or you have to climb?

GRAHAM: The level playing field is based on your talent. Life is not fair.

KING: No, it ain't.

GRAHAM: So it's based on what you do and it's based on your accountability and based on how you see yourself and it's based how you develop your potential and based on your -- it's how you develop your love for life. We're talking about living, we're not talking about a job. Anybody can get a job. We're talking about life. How do you build a life based on who you are?

KING: We'll be right back with Stedman Graham. We'll be taking your calls. You can ask him about lots of things and a lot of self- help things because he does it as good as anybody. The book "You Can Make It Happen: A Nine-Step Plan for Success," also "Build Your Own Life Brand." We'll talk about what he means by that, what he means -- applying a basketball term to the title for his next book. Stedman Graham is our guest.

By the way, Sunday night, we'll be live with Governor Gray Davis, taking your phone calls. Governor Gray Davis -- the election is Tuesday -- will be our especially guest Sunday night. We'll be right back.


Now, everyone is interested, so I might as well ask it. It's not my normal are of -- are you going to get married or what?

WINFREY: Or what.

KING: Or what? Well, it's either yes or no or what.

WINFREY: I don't know. I don't know the answer to that question. For the past 15, 16 years, the answer has been no. I will say that our relationship has gotten, you know, increasingly better over the years, in terms of us bonding and supporting one another. I think I'm more in love with him today than I was even five years ago.




WINFREY: America's obsessed with getting married. What America's obsessed with is not actually the marriage itself. America doesn't care if I'm happily married. They want a wedding! They want a wedding.


KING: "People" magazine...

WINFREY: They want the doves to fly!

KING: ... wants a wedding!

WINFREY: They want some doves to fly. They want a pretty Oscar de la Renta gown. They want to know what I wore, how much you spend on the cake and who came. Was Larry there? They don't -- they're not interested in my life. Is it meaningful? Or you know, is there a real intimacy there. Is there a connection. They just want to know, was it a nice wedding.

KING: Oprah's...

WINFREY: And then the next thing will be, Where are the children?

KING: Yes!

WINFREY: Well, I think my eggs are getting too old for that, Larry.



KING: This book, the newest of Stedman Graham's many books, the author of "You Can Make It Happen," is "Build Your Own Life Brand: A Powerful Strategy to Maximize Your Potential and Enhance Your Value for Ultimate Achievement." What do you mean by "brand"?

GRAHAM: Well, companies spend -- you know, Nike spends, I think, about a billion dollars a year on branding. And so if you can take the same techniques -- I used to be in the advertising business. If you take the same techniques that we use in the advertising business and apply them to your own personal life, then you can build your own life brand. And so the idea of "You Can Make It Happen: A Nine-Step Plan for Success" is the internal peace.

See, once you find out who you are as a person, then you need to apply the brand name to the external. Most people try to do the external first and don't have the internal right. So they end up, you know, not being able to connect the dots. So the idea of personal branding is about taking your own personal brand -- Larry King is a brand. The question is, is how do you maximize your potential, based on your reach? You reach all around the world. So what do you do with that? And so the idea of branding yourself in the marketplace and leading people is a novel concept.

KING: Do many, Stedman, like, let's say, Oprah and others, do this naturally? Have they something in them created their own brand?

GRAHAM: Well, they do it because they love their business. You do it because you spent 45 years in radio doing the same thing over and over every single day. So you branded yourself in the marketplace, and you're good at it. And Oprah's good at what she does. And Michael Jordan plays basketball. So he branded himself based on that. And I think that's OK...

GRAHAM: What can a bus driver do, though?

GRAHAM: The bus driver can find out what his talents are, where his talents are.

KING: Everybody has something.

GRAHAM: Everybody has something. The question becomes, is that what are you going to -- everybody's equal because we have 24 hours. The question becomes, What do you do with your 24 hours? You can drive a bus. You can do this or you can do that. So being able to self-actualize your potential, based on your own talents and the time that you have allotted to you because you -- everybody has the same 24 hours. So what do you do with that? You first find out what you love and what you care about and what you're passionate about and then you apply that to the American free enterprise system to brand yourself, so people understand that you're unique in what you do.

KING: What do you think of Dr. Phil, by the way, and the way he administers to things? I mean, Oprah made him famous, and now he's an entity himself.

GRAHAM: Well, that's...

KING: He branded himself pretty good!

GRAHAM: That's exactly right. He took control of his own life and he took what he's been doing for a number of years. He's been a psychologist for a number of years, and now he does it on television. And so he's branding himself into the marketplace, based on what he does, and he has control of his life. And everybody can do that. See, Dr. Phil and Oprah is no different than anybody else. Everybody's the same.

KING: So when they say it's simplistic, that's a mistake.

GRAHAM: It is being able to find out what you do that makes you unique and to be able to self-actualize that or build that into our American free enterprise system and allow yourself to be good at what you do because the value that you give yourself is the value the world gives you. And when you give yourself no value, that's exactly how the world sees you. So it's all about talent, development. Everything is about talent and development.

KING: What part does money play in all this? Now, you, for example, you're involved with one of the richest women in America, right? I think the richest person...

GRAHAM: It doesn't have anything to do with me. But it doesn't have anything to do with me.

KING: But you are also a very successful...


GRAHAM: Yes, right. It doesn't have anything to do with me. It's hers. I don't get it confused.

KING: You don't?

GRAHAM: Other people may get it confused, but I don't. And so what's hers is hers, and what's mine is mine. And as long as you -- long as you keep that separate, long as you understand that, you don't buy into the illusion of thinking that something is real when it's not. So in order to understand who you are, you need to understand what you're capable of doing, operate at the level that you can operate at, and don't try to be somebody else.

KING: You can let money control you, though, can't you.

GRAHAM: Well, money's the tool.

KING: Money's your drive.

GRAHAM: Money is the result of what you do well. That's all it is.

KING: Just -- that's right. It's a sidebar.

GRAHAM: That's all it is. So it's a tool to be used to develop and enhance what you do. You can't take it with you, but you can leave a legacy based on the talent that you have and based on the passion that you bring to the world.

KING: We'll be right back with Stedman Graham. His new book, "Build Your Own Life Brand." I'm going to ask about "Move Without the Ball." We're going to go to calls at the bottom of the hour. Don't go away.



UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: How much did Stedman encourage you to continue or (UNINTELLIGIBLE)

WINFREY: Stedman was terrific because I -- you know, I'm up at 5:00 in the morning and out and training. And he's been really supportive because he's done it before.

UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: What did he tell you afterwards?

WINFREY: He said he was proud of me. He said he was proud of me (UNINTELLIGIBLE)



GRAHAM: Larry, I think Oprah produced this show.


KING: She produces everything, doesn't she?

GRAHAM: Oh, she's...

KING: It's Oprah's world.

GRAHAM: She had to produce it. No.

KING: It's Oprah's world. We live in it!

GRAHAM: It's her world. It's her world.

KING: We live in it. Maybe she'll call in, take over the calls.

GRAHAM: Good for her. Good for her!

KING: Why not? What the heck.

GRAHAM: Good for her.

KING: Did you go to South Africa with her?

GRAHAM: Absolutely.

KING: What was that like?

GRAHAM: It was fun. We had a great time. I'm introducing my teens program over there.

KING: Oh, really?

GRAHAM: Yes. So it's great.

KING: Great country.

GRAHAM: It's a beautiful...

KING: Great people.

GRAHAM: ... country, and I've been over there a number of times, so -- at least eight or nine times.

KING: You're going to call a new book, which you'll come back for, "move Without the Ball." Now, for basketball fans, the great coaches, the people who judge basketball don't look at a player when he has the ball, they look at him -- what he does when he doesn't have the ball, how he reacts, where he goes, how he gets open. What do you mean by that in life?

GRAHAM: Well, you know, 67 percent of African-American boys in this country believe they're going to be Michael Jordan, 35 percent of white boys in this country believe they're going to be Michael Jordan. So there's a lot of folks that believe they're going to be a professional athlete without understanding the process of how to do that. So they want to go straight from here to there without filling in the middle. So "Move Without the Ball" gives them a sense of understanding of how to move without the ball and realize that they're a whole person, they're not just a ballplayer, that the sum of the parts is greater than the whole, that they're made up of all these wonderful things. And so what we want to be able to do is showcase their strengths based on other areas.

KING: So the ball isn't always in your hands.

GRAHAM: Just not about being a professional athlete because you end up losing your life, if that's what you focus on, and you miss your education.

KING: Did you play ball?

GRAHAM: Absolutely. All my life.

KING: All right. Did you think that this was a way out, as a black man -- I can be an athlete, professional athlete?

GRAHAM: No question. For me, it was -- basketball was my saving grace.

KING: So that's a normal thing to think, then.

GRAHAM: It's a normal thing to think. And I -- luckily, I discovered education. But you know, my career -- I played in the European Pro League for a number of years, but it was a short career. And so I had to rely now on my education. Luckily, I went to school. Luckily, I finished and I had something to fall back on. But if you don't have anything to fall back on and you have the dream of playing basketball every single day and that's all you do all day long and you don't even get a high school education, you're probably going to end up, you know, in jail, having -- you know, selling drugs or being involved in something that allows you to go to jail.

KING: Is athletics a level playing field now? Do you think we're judged purely on talent in the world of sport?

GRAHAM: Well, I think that we are -- it's an opportunity for everybody to have a -- you know, most kids that don't have a chance see athletics as a way out. And so they get involved in athletics because they're not discriminated upon, they're not -- you know, they can feel good about it, they can perform, you know, they can showcase their talents. And that's OK. You know, there's nothing wrong with being a ballplayer. But that's not the only thing that you can do.

KING: Why is race still -- Rush Limbaugh makes a statement, blows a job over a statement that the media helps black -- helps a black quarterback who's not as good as he -- apparently, they think. How'd you make of that?

GRAHAM: Well, I made it out because -- you know, I was a good ballplayer, so I too my talents. And I think with Rush, it's being able to understand what your talents are and understand what you do best and stay in that area. Don't try to move it into an area where you probably shouldn't be in.

KING: So he shouldn't have done the NFL show.

GRAHAM: Well, he should understand his audience and understand that sports is a very integrated, you know, game and that we all play sports and that we -- you know, this is a place where we can go where we don't have to think about race. So when you bring up race, it doesn't fit, you know, in the psyche, and so we reject it.

KING: In other words, we don't watch a football game and say that that's a black running back running with the ball.

GRAHAM: That's exactly right.

KING: He's just a running back.

GRAHAM: We're rooting for our team. And so it's a great place for all of us to come together to celebrate winning.

KING: So people don't like us, they like what we do, right?

GRAHAM: People love your talents. They don't care anything about you. They don't care about Larry King, they care about what Larry King does. So they care about your value. So this is a development issue. And so when you look at yourself as talent and say, How do I develop my talent as a person, how do I develop my talent as a human being -- you know, can I get more education, can I focus on what I love to do, can I work harder, can I do all those things that will give me as much value as possible, and then people pay you for the value that you bring to the table. It's not personal. None of this is personal.

KING: How do you handle it when you goof publicly, though, when you're embarrassed publicly?

GRAHAM: You have to go back to the core base of what makes you strong, all the way back to the strengths of what you do. Nobody care about your weaknesses. I could care less about your weaknesses. Focus on what you do. What do you bring to the table? What can the world celebrate with you?

KING: You can apply this to running a country, to running a country store.

GRAHAM: Let's get rid of the labels. You've got millions of people who believe they can't make it because of the color of their skin. They've been programmed to believe they are second-class citizens. Wrong. You got millions of people who believe -- millions of women around this world who believe they can't make it because they believe that it's a man's world and that they are second-class citizens. Wrong.

KING: All right. But can't you use -- let's take Oprah. Here's a black woman...

GRAHAM: So what I'm saying is...


GRAHAM: We're programmed to believe...

KING: Right.

GRAHAM: ... based on somebody else's definition.

KING: Gotcha.

GRAHAM: So you got to take your power back and stand up for yourself and by yourself back from the plantation and say, You know what? I'm no longer going to be a slave to the world, and I'm going to think for myself. That's called education and making education relevant to who you are, as a person.

KING: But the opportunity has to be equal, doesn't it?

GRAHAM: The opportunity is not going to be equal because nobody wants you to have the power. They want to take everything away from you. And so the world's not going to let you have your power base. You got to take that. You got to own that. You got to -- you got to build your own life brand. You got to understand who you are as a person. Nobody's going to give you that. Nobody's giving anything away. You got to own it. You got to take it. You got to control it.

KING: But the door has to be open to let...

GRAHAM: You got to knock the door down because nobody's going to give it to you. See, you -- we turn all of our power over to the external -- the house, the car, the money, the title, all the -- you know, all those things that decide for us who we are as a person. And then we're controlled. And so the idea of being able to now say, You know what? I'm going to think about who I am as a person. I'm going to begin to think about what I can do, based on my talents. And so that's your freedom. The greatest gift in the world. When you can buy yourself back and say, You know what? I'm Larry King. You know, I'm Muhammad Ali. You can't take this from me. I'm going to self- actualize my talent. I'm going to go around the world and do radio. I'm Oprah Winfrey. I'm going to do television. I'm going to be a billionaire.

You know, I came from a small place in Mississippi, small town, you know, had a tough background. You can't stop me, despite the obstacles. Not supposed to be on television. She's there because of what? Because she's good at what she does. That's the message. And if you get that, if you understand who you are as a person, you can bypass the obstacles that come your way. You can bypass the race. You can bypass where you came from. You can bypass the community deprivation that you have.

KING: Our guest is Stedman Graham. We're going to break and go to your calls. The book is "Build Your Own Life Brand: A Powerful Strategy to Maximize Your Potential and Enhance Your Value for Ultimate Achievement." We'll be right back with your calls for Stedman Graham. Don't go away.



WINFREY: The whole issue of him wanting to define himself as not being Oprah Winfrey's boyfriend, I completely understand. Wanting to have his own identity, wanting his own work, his own business and not, you know, just be identified as somebody who was, you know, a walker. For me, I thought was very important for him and has been very important in the relationship. 


KING: We're back with Stedman Graham, businessman, best-selling author, "You Can Make it Happen: A Nine-Step Plan for Success." His new book out, which will be out next year, will be called "Move Without the Ball." He's devoted a lifetime to the cause of education and life-long learning. And -- by the way, you -- before we go to calls -- you served in the military, right? 

GRAHAM: Right. I was in the military for a number of years. 

KING: Can you imagine what it's like being a troop in Iraq?

GRAHAM: I know it's very, very difficult, especially this time with the heat and having to wear all the gear, because I used to have to wear it. And so it's very uncomfortable.

KING: Yes. We think...

GRAHAM: And also -- you know, you know -- your life, you don't know when you're going to lose your life. That's a tough one. 

KING: Tampa, Florida, as we go to calls for Stedman Graham.

CALLER: Yes, Larry. My question for Mr. Graham is, what do you think can be done to perhaps get our schools, businesses, churches and government to work together and getting our school systems geared toward teaching real life skills coupled with education to, perhaps, you know, get this generation and the next ones more geared towards workforce?

GRAHAM: That's a great question. 

You know, I spent a number of years -- about 15 years working in my own community and organizing my community. And really, it's about leadership and having somebody who the people can buy into who understand how to put things together. 

Number one, the churches have to come together, which is big in communities and teachers and being able to have a way to bring resources back into the community. What often -- often happens is the resources go out. So what we have to do is give our young people a sense of vision based on showing that we care about them, which is the reason why so many young people are losing opportunities because there's no care. And leadership is a big part of that.

KING: Do you need a leader-type, then, to pull it off? 

GRAHAM: Absolutely. I mean, leadership is everything. So the idea of being able to -- to have a -- a town or a city that is successful, it comes back to leadership. It comes back to the leader. 

KING: Magnolia, Arkansas, for Stedman Graham. 

CALLER: Enjoy your show, Larry.

KING: Thank you. 

CALLER: And I -- and glad to talk to Stedman. I was born in Texas and I was just wondering, since you graduated from Hardin- Simmons, were you -- are you from Texas? Were you and born and reared there? And what influence did your family have to make you the man you are? 

GRAHAM: Well, I was -- I was I was born in New Jersey. 

KING: Far cry from Hardin-Simmons.

GRAHAM: Right, and so I got a scholarship to Hardin-Simmons and played ball there and graduated from and then went to Ball State. which...

KING: Ah! Teacher's college.

GRAHAM: Right. Teacher's college. And got a master's in education. 

KING: How good a school was Hardin-Simmons?

GRAHAM: Good school. It was a Baptist college and we had to go to chapel twice a week, and so that helped me graduate.

KING: They recruited you out of New Jersey? 

GRAHAM: They recruited me from Detroit. I went to the University of Detroit for a semester and didn't like it and then transferred.

KING: Didn't like it?

GRAHAM: No. Didn't like it. Then transferred down to Hardin- Simmons.

KING: Columbia, South Carolina, hello.

CALLER: Hello. Good evening. Thank you...


CALLER: ...Larry. We're enjoying your show.

KING: Thank you. 

CALLER: Mr. Graham, I have a question for you. How do I help my black 15-year-old son with -- to get his brilliant creative writing published?

GRAHAM: Well, the first thing I would do is find out whether he has a passion for writing. 

KING: Does he, ma'am? 

CALLER: Yes, he has a great passion for writing. 

KING: Great start. 

GRAHAM: What we missed mostly is the ability to process and understand how to do things. And that helps a lot, is when you go to a library, you find out how to do it on your own. Instead of asking people, do the research first. And then take that -- take the how-to and then apply that to -- to our system and figure out how to get to the next level. So let him learn on his own as much as he possibly can.

KING: Las Vegas, hello.

CALLER: Hi. Good evening, gentlemen. Thank you for taking my call. 

KING: Sure. 

CALLER: I wanted to know, what kind of -- Mr. Graham, what kind of relationship does Oprah have with your daughter? 

GRAHAM: A very good relationship.

KING: How old is your daughter? 

GRAHAM: She's 28. And she graduated from Wellesley College.

KING: Not bad.

GRAHAM: Yes. She's good. Very smart. 

KING: What does she do?

GRAHAM: Very proud of her. She's in the advertising business.

KING: Not married?

GRAHAM: Not married, no. 

KING: To Houston, Texas, hello. 

CALLER: Yes, Mr. Graham. How do you plan to continue deliver your plan to the public in the future?

GRAHAM: Well, what I like to do is....

KING: Just writing books?

GRAHAM: Write books, I speak and I have programs. So we put programs in the schools. We're currently working Job Corps to be the training before the training. We're in Carlsbad High School as a pilot program. We're in West Batomic (ph) with the team program. We're moving into Dallas.

And, so what we do, we're the missing piece. We're kind of the training before the training and we enhance the belief system. So we understand who you are. You're better able to take education and make it relevant. So many young people go to school. they'll go to school and don't have a sense of self. And so they study the technical material, but it doesn't -- it's not relevant to their own passion. And when you can connect it to, when you connect the passion with the technical material and then American free enterprise system, you have a holistic approach to living. 

KING: And you're going to do what in South Africa?

GRAHAM: Well, we're taking our program and applying our program to South Africa to give them self a sense of self to remove the labels, "I'm not good enough." And so when you, again, self-actualize your talent, you find your passion, you're able then to show them how to process and take the nine-step process which shows them how to organize their life around their passion and apply that process to their own environment. 

KING: Those labels, though, are culturally understandable, aren't they? I mean, culture brought it upon (ph) -- I mean...

GRAHAM: Well...

KING: They were born into it.

GRAHAM: But you have to buy into it, too, also. So you have to be reprogrammed. You were programmed in the first place and now you have to be reprogrammed. So the nine-step process, which is -- first step is check your I.D., understand who you are. Second step is create a vision for yourself. Who do I want to become? Third step is how do I do that? Develop a travel plan. Master the rules of the road, your value system. Step into the outer limits. Build your own dream team, win by decisions. 

So it's a process. When you understand how to process, you understand how to think. Once you understand how to think, now you can think about your passion and how to self actualize that in the world that you live in every single day. Now information becomes real. Otherwise you just forget it. You read it and you forget it.

KING: Toronto, hello.

CALLER: Good evening, Mr. King.


CALLER: Mr. Graham. My question for you is, who has had the greatest impact on you spiritually? Have you met the person? I know the pope was here recently and I didn't get a chance to meet him, but just being near him was really something. How about yourself?

KING: You have a role model? A...

GRAHAM: Oh, yes. I have a -- you know, the thing I learned is that -- is that we're all human beings and what I try to do is take a little bit from everyone. And you know, everybody I meet, I just take a little bit of from them and realize that -- you know, that everybody is -- has issues and nobody's perfect. 

I've had some good role models in my life. 

KING: Starting young, too? 

GRAHAM: Very young. Absolutely. So I was very involved in the community. And...

KING: Do you have strong family? 

GRAHAM: Strong family. And ...

KING: Brothers...

GRAHAM: Large family. 

KING: Large?

GRAHAM: Very large family. Very large. So, very large immediate family and also extended family.

KING: Long Beach, California, hello.

CALLER: Hi, Larry.


CALLER: How are you?

KING: Fine.

CALLER: Great.

My guest is -- Mr. Graham, are you a member of Oprah's Book Club?

GRAHAM: No. That would compromise my material. People ask me that all the time and they joke with me. So I don't know if you're joking or you're just being serious.

KING: No, she didn't sound like she was joking.


No. No, I'm not. I'm just -- that's kind of a -- that would be a joke to me.

KING: You never take advantage of...

GRAHAM: I'd develop no credibility. I mean, you don't see her picture on the front of any of these books.

KING: Yes. Of course.

GRAHAM: So the idea is to build your own. When I say build your own life brand, build your own life brand.

KING: And you are in a unique position to prove that.

GRAHAM: Well, I try to talk to them.

KING: Yes.

GRAHAM: Absolutely.

KING: Stamford, hello.

CALLER: Hi....


CALLER: Mr. Graham?

KING: Yes.

CALLER: How are you today?

KING: Go ahead.

CALLER: I wanted to know....


KING: Go ahead. Ma'am? We heard something -- I'm sorry -- we heard -- we hear something happen with the phone call, for which we apologize.

We're going to take a break and come back. Back with more calls for Stedman Graham. The book, "Build Your Own Life Brand." 

Don't forget, Sunday night, Governor Gray Davis of California. The election is next Tuesday. The governor will be live and take your phone calls.

Don't go away.



UNIDENTIFIED MALE: The Emmy goes to Oprah Winfrey, "The Oprah Winfrey Show."

WINFREY: Thank you, too, Stedman, for putting up with all the long hours. It's our sixth anniversary.


KING: How did you meet, by the way?

GRAHAM: We met at a charity. We knew each other two years before we started dating.

KING: Really?


KING: She was on television in Chicago, Illinois. 

GRAHAM: She was local. 

KING: Local in Chicago? 

GRAHAM: Nobody knew who Oprah was nationally, but she was local and we knew each other and we were friends.

KING; To Gillford, Connecticut, hello. Gillford are you there?

CALLER: Yes, hello? 

KING: Go ahead. 

CALLER: My question is. I have a product that I'm trying to come up with that would be of help to seniors and elderly people for the chronically ill. I'm a little bit -- I'm not sure in how I should go about that. Maybe you can help me.

GRAHAM: What I would do, again, if you have a product, find out someone who has a similar product and create a model like they have. Look for the model. And when you're able to -- you know, this stuff is not rocket scientist. Being able to figure out what works and do what somebody else has done and be able to sell your product to the marketplace based on how to do it. So, most people don't take the time to research it to find out how to do it.

KING: Can a senior adopt a new philosophy? I mean, can a 75- year-old person suddenly...

GRAHAM: You still have to live. You still have to eat. And at 75, you may live to be 85 or 95. So the idea of being able to re- create yourself. I think the idea of re-creating yourself over and over every single day is really the challenge, because we fall into this comfort zone. 

The idea of being able to get out of your comfort zone and figure out how you're going to be a better person today or tomorrow than you were yesterday is based on utilizing the resources around you and thinking what you can do. 

KING: Do you also have fun? You're very serious about what you do. Do you have fun? 

GRAHAM: My whole life is, you know, as long as I love what I do, work is fun. I'm having a great time. Work is fun.

KING: Jacksonville, Florida, hello. 

CALLER: Hello.


CALLER: Yes. I'd like to ask Mr. Stedman, at what point did he realize the changes in himself? I'm 50 and I have just realized many things about myself and about to promote a talent that I have and -- what changed in him to realize that the things he did about himself. 

KING: You weren't born with this. 

GRAHAM: No. Really searching within yourself to find out what is your base for development. How do you develop basing your talents and basing your skills. How do you do it right? So, the idea of educating yourself and reading. I read a lot to find out how other people have done it and try to apply the same principals to my own life. 

So, if you just research, research and research and educate yourself on how you're going to do it, then, in fact, then do it. You know, that's very helpful. 

KING: Morana, Arizona, for Stedman Graham. Hello.


KING: Go ahead. 

CALLER: This is Arizona.

KING: yes, go ahead.

CALLER: Stedman, I have watched Oprah and I don't read the tabloids, I never knew what you did for a living. I'm so grateful for this program. How do you cope living with such a high-profile woman? Like going out to dinner and shopping, that must be very difficult. 

KING: Seriously, the focus is on the person you're with. 

GRAHAM: I'm happy for her. And I'm happy for her life and I want her to be the best person she can possibly be. The beautiful thing about that, is when you're happy with your life, you don't really care about all the other external things. 

KING: The trappings.

GRAHAM If you're happy with your life, you want other people to be happy with their life. So, I want her, she wants to run for president of the United States or whatever she wants to do, I want her to be happy. 

If she's happy, I'm happy.

KING: When you go out to eat, you enjoy her recognition.

GRAHAM: Whatever he can do for herself to bring more value to this world, she's a special human being. So, what she brings to so many people around this world, that's a gift, that's a blessing. I don't want to get in the way of that. 

KING: Does she enjoy yours? 

GRAHAM: Absolutely. She's happy with her life and I'm sure she's happy with my life, no question about it.

KING: Stanford, Connecticut, we got the call back, hello.

CALLER: Hi, Mr. Graham. Hi, Larry. I wanted to say, Larry, my boyfriend loves your show.

KING: And you, you're sort of quasi (ph) Go ahead, what's your question? 

CALLER: I wanted to ask Mr. Graham, I saw a show with Madonna on it -- on her show. And she had mentioned she always though about having children. I just want to know, have you guys ever considered adopting maybe.

GRAHAM: It could be a possibility. I don't...

KING: Doesn't Oprah love children?

GRAHAM: Yes, she does.

KING: Adoption is very popular. A lot of people do well with it. 

GRAHAM: That's right.

KING: You never know. Don't commitment yourself. Minneapolis.

CALLER: Hi, Mr. Graham. I don't have an Oprah question. Actually, I wanted to know, how do you begin to even realize what your passion is?

GRAHAM: Well, you know, that's a great question. What you do, is you take a piece of paper and you write down all the things that you love and you build a life around everything that you love. And that is who you are. And what you try to do is develop that based on the 24 hours that you have and the education that you learn from the world that you're in every single day, apply that education to everything that you love and just grow. 

KING: Make a list. 

GRAHAM: Make a list of everything you love and build a life around everything that you love. 

KING: Las Vegas, hello. 

CALLER: Hi, Larry.


CALLER: Stedman, I loved your book "Build Your Own Life Brand." I have one question I have been curious about. Why you and Oprah use the language "life portraits" to define your relationship, instead of traditional marriage. 

KING: Life partners, she said life portraits. 

GRAHAM: I see. We haven't thought about it. 

KING: It's a pretty good term. 

GRAHAM: It's a pretty good term.

KING: In other words, you're comfortable in that term. 

GRAHAM: That's probably appropriate for us. 

KING: Do you like the concept that society places on marriage, the idea of marriage? 

GRAHAM: No question about it. I'm pretty traditional.

KING: It just doesn't enter into your sphere.

GRAHAM: Your right. Absolutely.

KING: Back with our remaining moments with Stedman Graham, the author of "Build Your Own Life Brand" and other books as well. Next year, the book will be "Moving Without The Ball." And we'll be right back with our remaining moments and more phone calls. Don't go away.


KING: We're back with our remaining moments with Stedman Graham. Virginia Beach, Virginia. Hello.

CALLER: Hi. This question is for Mr. Graham. 

KING: Sure.

CALLER: I wanted to know how does Oprah impact your life, Mr. Graham.

KING: Impact your life. 

GRAHAM: Well, she serves as a great example in my life. She -- I get to listen to the shows, you know, in terms of her coming home and talking about the things she learned. We get to share a lot of conversations. She's really doing in the air -- when I say in the air, on television -- what I do on the ground. So we're really doing the same work.

KING: Which is? 

GRAHAM: Which is helping people maximize their potential as human beings. And so it really is helpful that we get a chance to share those kinds of experiences.

KING: With all your traveling, do you get to watch her much? 

GRAHAM: No, not that much. So I'm busy pretty much working and don't get a chance to do that.

KING: Tampa, hello. 

CALLER: Hi, I would like to ask Stedman a question. Being the first to graduate from college in your family, do you find that that has caused some distance? In my personal situation, that has. I have been the first one to graduate from college myself and find that the more educated I became, the farther away that I became from my family. 

GRAHAM: No, for me, it really is a leadership opportunity, to be able to encourage members of my family to try and educate, to help educate themselves. And I think they see me as a role model to be able to say, you know what, if he can do it, I can do it. And also, I try to get very involved with my family in the community, in terms of showing them that you can be anything that you want and do anything that you want, and education is the part of that process. 

KING: So there was no division over jealousy? 

GRAHAM: Absolutely not, no.

KING: Ottawa, Ontario. Hello.

CALLER: Hi, Larry.


CALLER: Mr. Graham, I was just wondering, it is my first year in university, and I'm the only person in my family to continue on with secondary education, and everything has been quite stressful, and so, I was just wondering if you had any motivational tips for me, because it -- yeah. 

GRAHAM: I would find out what you really are passionate about and then try to take courses that build on your strengths, so that what happens -- you feel, and you feel more empowered because of the things that really resonate with who you are as a person, as opposed to taking courses and then, you know, after four years of college find out that this is not what you really want to do.

KING: And finally, Canfield, Ohio. Hello.

CALLER: Yes, I was wanting to know if Stedman could say a few words about what I can do to find myself. I found my identity, I know what I am, I just don't know how to apply that to everyday life. I had to let go of everything around me to continue. So, I was just wondering, what he can add to try to help me to...

KING: Less than a minute.

GRAHAM: Well, I think the important thing is to move out of our history, bring the good things up. Live in the present and also in the future. A lot of times, we're so programmed by our parents and programmed by our environment. So we can move out of our history into our imagination and focus on innovating and creating opportunities, as opposed to holding -- holding -- going back to that historical storyboard that we have in our head all the time. It helps us a lot. And we realize we're separate from our parents, even though our parents raised us, that we don't have to be our parents. You know, if you have -- take the good experiences, but also leave the bad experiences behind.

KING: You're well within yourself, right? That's what you're trying...

GRAHAM: That's the core base. That's the core base. That's the foundation for development. And when you get that, then you can be comfortable with yourself. 

KING: And your message is that you can get it?

GRAHAM: And anybody can get it, that's the message.

KING: Thanks. Always great seeing you. 

GRAHAM: Thank you. My pleasure.

KING: Stedman Graham, businessman, public speaker, best-selling author. "Build Your Own Life Brand," the newest, "You Can Make It Happen," of course the author of that nine-step plan for success. Move without the ball is a basketball term that he applies to life. 

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